Silly Fashion Show
"Who do you say I am?" Jesus' question not only measured the view that his followers held of the Master. It also measured the way the followers thought of themselves. Peter declared Jesus the Messiah. At the same time, he implied Jesus' followers were part of his Messianic ministry.
Whether we like it or not, we constantly ask others to judge us and give us feedback. Unfortunately, such questions are invitations to criticism beyond the intent of inquirers. When we ask about our looks, abilities, or relationships, we leave ourselves open to the negative comments and sarcasm of others. The flip side also have pitfalls. When we are asked, we face decisions about sensitivity vs. honesty vs. social expectations.
For example, consider the question, "How do I look?" If you ask the question, what should you expect in answer? If you are asked, how should you respond? These questions have important social implications. So, they are worthy of family discussion. Ease into the discussion with a "Silly Fashion Show." Have family members dress up with costume materials (wigs, make-up, Halloween masks, baggy clothes, etc.). During the show, ask "How do I look?" Enjoy the reactions and remarks. Then, put away the materials and reintroduce the question. Discuss how to answer in a kind but honest way. Re-frame the question to other situations ("How am I doing? How am I succeeding?") How should family members ask the question? How should they respond? Who should they ask?
Finally, use the example of prayer as a way to measure such questions of expectation and response. Jesus still asks us "Who do you say I am?" He waits patiently for a response. And the questions we ask of him he answers with love.